Author: Yema A.K.A Lady Lover
I don't have a Story but I do have a poem
I came out that stank closet
Hidden in denial and fear, to accept who I am
Everyday of my life so many jokes of homosexuality
My ears hear as my soul cries
For I know who I am but if I step out this closet
And reveal to all others there's no going back
There will be no doors to shield my heart
From the terrors of my society
I may lose all that has meaning
But why shall I live within four walls
With no windows or blossom flowers
For why shall I imprison myself?
When society continues to do it for me
I'm only reminded of how satanic I am
And how my being is disgusting
By those that judge me by my sexual orientation
For I am who I am, a lesbian
One that shall no longer hide behind curtains
Nor the shade of a tree
Or even deny whom she'd rather sleep with
One that shall scream with pride who is without hesitation?
Here is a quote that allowed me to accept who I was:
"Who you are is good enough if you would only be it openly." ~Carl Rogers
Out of the Shadows
Justin C (20yo)
Founder of TruthSetsFree.net
It was three years ago and I was a freshman at Earlham College, a Quaker
liberal arts college in Richmond, Indiana. Like every other freshman, I
had mixed feelings of excitement about all the new people, clubs, and the
independence, as well as a little apprehension about so much newness and
so much unknown. What I did not know, however, was just how much I would
discover that year.
National Coming Out day rolled around, I forget the date, but we all knew
because of the chalking on the sidewalks that the campus’ GLBTQ group had
done the night before. You know, catchy phrases like, “2, 4, 6, 8…don’t
assume your grandma’s straight.” The following Friday in the school’s
newspaper a conservative Christian student had written a letter to the
editor in which he harshly condemned homosexuality using Leviticus 18:22
as his basis.
Having been raised in a Christian home, and having felt a calling towards
ministry since the eighth grade I was quite aware at the time that his
usage of the Leviticus law was quite ironic since Leviticus also condemns
shaving one’s beard, eating shrimp, wearing clothing made of two fabrics,
etc. As I was writing a response, I recognized that the reason I felt
compelled to respond was not simply because he was misusing Scripture or
because I wanted to defend my gay friends, but I realized that I was in
fact defending myself. It was in writing that letter that I realized I
I finished the letter, pointing out his hypocrisy in using Leviticus, but
I knew very well that there were so many other verses in the Bible used
to condemn homosexuals. That week began what turned into three years of
personal Bible study. I wanted to answer the question, “What exactly does
the Bible say about homosexuality?” Nobody knew at this time that I was
gay, and when the next issue of the school paper came out my mom even
asked me on the phone if I was gay, and I remember lying to her.
Through my studies I found numerous resources on both sides, but I didn’t
want to jump to a conclusion based on a little 2-page leaflet that
“proves” the Bible doesn’t say anything about homosexuality. I wanted
whatever conclusion to be a true conviction. What I discovered through
in-depth Bible study did, nonetheless, begin my personal journey out of
the shadows of self-hate and lies, into the Light of self-acceptance.
Never did I imagine that I would be sitting here writing a letter about
my story to be published. I had come to see that there was no blanket
condemnation of homosexuality, but rather homogenitality (i.e. homosexual
sex) was only mentioned within the context of rape, prostitution,
pederasty, etc…all practices common in biblical times which I too would
A few months after coming out to my family and some close friends I wrote
a study in which I examined the six verses most commonly misinterpreted
to condemn homosexuality. Eventually my Bishop and two others came beside
me to financially support the printing and publication of this study and
I eventually established
www.TruthSetsFree.net as a means of sharing my study with those in
Since I launched TruthSetsFree.net I have been interviewed on the
Michelangelo Signorile Radio Show on OutQ SIRIUS radio and am arranged to
be interviewed on Canadian gay rights activist Cheri DiNovo’s radio show
“Radical Reverend” on May 19th. I have even recruited a media
coordinator and fundraising manager, both of whom are amazing gay
My study presents the Truth that set me free...not free to do whatever I
want, but free to step out of the shadows of lies and self-hate to a
place where I can truly embrace myself. As I am writing this I am mindful
of the fact that there will soon be an article about my emerging ministry
in my hometown paper, which serves a very rural area in the thumb of
Michigan. I know, however, that there is nothing to fear, for Truth
brought my thus far, and what an adventure it has been!!
Author: Keisha J
I officially came out to my closest friends and family in February of this
year but I come out a little more every day. I feel like my sexuality has
unfolded slowly starting from the time i was in elementary.
I remember playing house with my best friend and how exhilarating it felt
to kiss her when we pretended to be husband and wife.
I remember getting dressed in gym with my classmates in junior high and
letting my eyes linger on their bodies for too long and then feeling like
something was wrong with me.
I remember having a 25 year old girlfriend, who was bisexual, when i was
17 years old and how comfortable and right it felt to be with another
woman. For a time I thought i was bisexual too but somewhere deep inside
it didn't feel right.
And now at 21 years old, after i realized that i had more than 'friendly'
feelings towards one of my closest friends, who came out a week before i
did, that I am gay.
I now accept the fact that i am a woman who loves other women. I am gay. I
am a lesbian and it's okay.
One day I'll feel confident enough to say it loud and proud to anyone and
everyone but for now I am happy that I can accept in my head and in my
Well, here's a poem I wrote when I was really mad at my mom. I had just
come out to her, and she was basically ignoring me,
thought I was going through "some phase". So, here goes.
Why do we listen
to all the discriminators
When they say "She's a
lesbian, I hate her."
Why don't we just say
fuck it and do what's in our hearts
Instead of letting this
homophobic world tear us apart.
Why do we let our
parents bring us down
when they read our journels
and scream at what they've just found
Why do we commit suicide,
And let our friends make us
if we don't hide.
Why can't we just say
fuck it and oh well
When they're the ones
I came out to my sister in April of 2000. But, it wasn't until August of
2003 that I had my first bi encounter. After that I came out to my
husband, my father and a few friends. Everyone is fine with it except my
husband a my best friend. Anyway...I have met a really wonderful woman and
the more time I spend with her, the more I want to shout to the world that
I am bi. I have never been in love with a woman, but I am now. She is
great. She has taught me that being bi is ok. That I am not "crazy" or
"sick".. I only wished the rest of the world thought the same way.
I am a happily married women, but I have always had a certain connection
with women. .they are beautiful. I told my husband how I felt and he was
completely supportive (what a guy!) so from then on, I have experienced
the true beauty of another women soft skin on mine, and am not ashamed to
tell anyone and everyone that I am a happy bisexual female. Not alot of
people are supportive, but the way I see . .You only live once so be who
you are, not who others want you to be!!!
Is life ever easy? I guess that question can never be answered. For so
long now I've been searching for so many answers. Why do people hate me?
Why do people discriminate? Well, now it's my turn, my chance.
The day I met my first girlfriend, I knew that she was the one. When
she smiled there was so much there. I swear we both fell in love. I've
known her for 4 years now, we only dated a month. It still hurts to think
of what I lost. I still love her. Just not as I did before. When I told my
mom she was cool but to this day I would die to hear my father say he
approved of me. Heck I'd die to hear him say he was even proud. Writing
this story hurts. It reminds me of all the s#^@ people have done.
Now I have truly found the love of my life, my girlfriend Caitlin.
I met her and from there we have been indestructible. I love her with my
life. She has my heart forever. On the 26th it will be 9 months. I've
never felt like this for anyone else. She truly has been there for me
through so much. I can't express my feelings for her. Thank you Caitlin, I
If I could tell the world my story I would but there's too much that
still hurts so for now here's the basics. Thanks for taking the time to
read this. It means a lot to me.
if i look back on my last 12 yrs of life, i would of told u
i was happy with who i was and what i have become.
see 12 yrs ago i met my husband and i thought there was no other
for me.now my happy 3 yrs ago to my happy now is so so different,
see im the happiest i have ever been now,
because of one person, she has opened my eyes
and shown me what true love is!i have always known i was bi,
and was happy being so as i hadnt found anyone else besides my
husband that i truly loved. it all started with me and her one drunken
night, we had flirted like mad for weeks before hand,
and finally it happened. so we started
going out just so we could fool around, and we
even went away for 4 days, hubby knew and wasnt
happy, but i didnt care,i was so into her!
so 18 months later, she has been through a bf
and a gf since and has come back to me,not that we ever lost contact
infact we became best of friends and saw each other every other day.
but now its different, im stuck,
see my happiness i have with her out ways that of my hubbies,
i have fallen in love with her, and her
with me, yet we cant be what we want as i have 2
children to my hubby, and he will take them if i
went. i only wish that 12 yrs ago my happiness
could excel past that of which i felt, maybe i
would not of been so hasty to marry for convenience,
and waited for the one i truly, deeply,
and entirely feel for.
WILL IT WAS LIKE THIS, I WAS A 10th GRADER AT MY LOCAL HIGH
SCHOOL. WHEN I STARTED TO NOTICE THAT WAS NOT LOOKING TO MUCH AT THE GUYS
THAT I WENT TO SCHOOL WITH IT WAS THE GIRLS. NOT TO SAY THE LEAST I PLAYED
SOFTBALL WITH ALL LESBIANS. BUT, THEIR WAS THIS ONE GIRL THAT I WOULD
ALWAYS LOOK AT BUT, I KNEW SHE JUST WOULD NOT HAVE ME. SO, I STARTED
LOOKING ELSEWHERE BUT ALWAYS KEPT THAT ONE IN MIND. FINALLY CHRISTMAS OF
'95 I FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. SHE WAS A SENIOR IN HIGH SCHOOL AND
WORKED AT A LOCAL RETAIL STORE. WE STARTED SEEING EACH OTHER AND, THEN WE
MOVED IN WITH EACH OTHER. WE WHERE TOGETHER FOR 9 YEARS AND FINALLY CALLED
IT OFF. BUT TO THIS DAY WE ARE THE BEST FRIENDS. BUT KNOW I HAVE A PROBLEM
THE ONE I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH IS TAKEN AND I DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO DO?
i came out to my sister first. i thought see would
hate me but she told me it was o,k we are closer now than before.
everyone knows now.
I've grown up knowing I was a Lesbian. But I finally let the world
know when my mom said something that made me feel horrible. She did know
about me and she was just joking but it still hurt. After a week of worrying
over it i final say down with her and told my mom I was a lesbian. She
laughed, not in a mean way but in
I was so relieved that i stopped caring what people think. Its my life
Now I'm very obvious about myself with others and i could never been